I remember being asked on one of the first days of class who had been in an
argument before in their lives. Everyone raised their hands because, we
determined, everyone has different viewpoints and perspectives that are
important to them. Since then and because we have been discussing
argument so relentlessly, I've found myself acutely aware of every argument I
have been in since. I've found myself, for the most part, to have a much
better handle on keeping these arguments very civil and smart. I think
that this is mostly a direct result of knowing and addressing my audience by
trying to understand what their perspective is.
Yesterday, I had a bit of a different argument with some friends that led me
to question this line of thinking. It
was a very heated debate, and I am certain more than one of us left with hurt
feelings. It was a topic I am extremely
passionate about and consider myself very well educated on. But the problem was that because of this
passion I was completely incapable of seeing and considering the reverse opinion—and she was
completely unwilling to see mine.
I know
that understanding the other perspective is key in arguing, and I was aware of
the nagging in the back of my mind telling me so as we continued to shoot
biting comments back and forth, but I almost felt as if I was too close to the
topic to separate myself. Has anyone
else had an experience like this before? Have you found a way to overcome it? Anger and passion are a key to argument, I think. But it seems to me that you have to be careful not to have too much.
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